Owning Your Experience?

I have a responsibility to myself to feel my emotions and be present to my experience. If I don’t feel my feelings or allow myself to own how I feel about a situation, then I am negating me. Going straight to the “I’m fine place” is devaluing my truth - it’s like being fake with myself.

Taking personal responsibility means that I can be curious about my circumstances, about the reality of a situation, and check myself and the stories I’m creating about it.

This week in my group program, The Courage Connection, we talked about acceptance. Accepting our current reality doesn’t mean we have to like it, agree with it, or acquiesce to it. Acceptance means that I can stop making my current situation worse by fighting against it. From this place, I have choices about how I want to move forward.

This duality is what I call a tango. Learning to dance with our feelings and our perceptions of our reality is a practice. This is this dance between feeling and being and evaluating and choosing and doing. The key is to be in ownership of my experience, to be conscious of my thoughts and my choices. To not displace, blame, judge, or devalue my own feelings and experience.

This responsibility that I have for myself extends to those that I coach. Often I will say, we can’t coach this away; we can’t bypass it. As much as I know you want to be able to pivot and keep on moving, you can’t deny what you are feeling or experiencing. While we work with our feelings and emotions and learn to shift perception, we can only do so when we honor our human experience.

brave enough to show up
By Cleo Wade

yell
if you need to

need
if you need to

live
while you
are here

The world does not need your silence. The world
Does not need you to say you
Are fine when you aren’t.

The sun is starting to come up earlier and stay with us longer each day. Hope feels like it is on the horizon. Simultaneously, we are coming up on a year of our lives forever being altered. The effects on each of us are still unknown.

During this time, I encourage you to do what you need to: to yell, to need, to live, to love, to rant, to dance, to cry, to laugh, to be. Honor your feelings and stay present to your experience. Resist the urge to turn away from those feelings you view as unpleasant. They are a part of the authentic human experience. They are a part of you.

Sending you love,